Rather than setting New Year’s resolutions, do this instead. Consider how you want to be remembered and vow to live that way, starting in 2025. Your surviving loved ones are your living legacy. Your influence on them is your living legacy.
If you’re grieving, you need to keep your self-care program as simple as possible. Step one: Stop worrying about self care. Step two: Move daily.
Worrying over your own reaction to a loved one’s death is a major source of suffering in bereavement. Compassionate self-talk eases your mind so you can focus on soothing self-care.
When you lose someone dear to you, you need others to help you feel safe. People to hear your pain. To remind you that you’re still here, even though it doesn’t feel like it. Humans aren’t meant to grieve alone.
Anxious energy is uncomfortable because it’s purpose is to wake you up. Make you pay attention. Because if you course-correct now, you can prevent the worst-case scenario and get to a better outcome. That means there’s a best-case scenario that’s also possible. Once you start imagining that a better outcome is within your grasp, you start converting anxiety to hope.
Many of us carry the heaviness of our loved ones’ world on our shoulders. That’s a quick way to find yourself with a bad case of compassion fatigue, which helps nobody. So do an investigation and prove to yourself that your loved ones, like you, have invisible helpers who can help you carry the emotional load.