When I learned my mother had entered a “deep sleep,” I took a last-minute flight to be with her. It was my pre-doula days, so I didn’t know exactly what was happening to her. Mom had gone down, then rallied, often that year. In fact, no one in the family knew what to think, and the …
How I feel about my work? I see unfathomable grace daily. I see my clients lean into the intensity of grief and become wiser versions of themselves. That’s why I do what I do. I don’t bring faith to them. They bring faith to me.
...Rip currents are narrow bands of water in surf zones that flow away from the shore. One minute, you’re swimming in a manageable tide. The next, you’re being pulled out to sea at 5 mph. Grief can feel like an emotional rip current. And the strategies for riding out a rip current will also work for navigating grief.
...It’s a cruel irony. A loved one’s death wreaks ultimate chaos on daily life when your coping skills feel nonexistent. One way to find strength is to practice remembering “who you have” and “what’s gone right.” A deliberate practice of this will build your faith that good stuff, the mission-critical stuff, will materialize when you truly need it.
...We need to mourn the death of our loved ones. Mourning, the outward expression of grief, requires an audience. Traditional public rituals often aren’t enough. We need more time and opportunity to wake our lost loved ones and reconcile our grief. This post gives examples of doing just that.
...You’ve heard the African saying “It takes a village to raise a child.” I like to say, it takes a team of geniuses to get us through grief and loss. Or to get through life in general, truth be told. The good news is, each of us has our own personal team of smart senior advisors. And because …