People often ask me “How exactly do you help people get through grief?” In this article, I lay out my process, which is rooted in “resilient healing.” Loss is a universal human experience, but we don’t have to passively live with sadness. Resilient healing gets you through the worst parts of grieving in a relatively short period of time.
...When you lose someone dear to you, you need others to help you feel safe. People to hear your pain. To remind you that you’re still here, even though it doesn’t feel like it. Humans aren’t meant to grieve alone.
...If you’re a caregiver for a loved one with special needs, you’ve probably faced major hurdles in getting them much-needed treatment. Sometimes we have to rely on skunk power. We annoy the right person until they’re convinced that helping us is the lesser pain-in-the-ass.
...imagine the people in your life who will likely outlive you. When they tell stories about you, what do you hope they’ll write. Bingo! You just identified your legacy.
...If you’re missing someone during this holiday season, connect with their legacy. Legacy is the wealth our loved ones leave behind and it’s much more than money and material belongings. A person’s legacy is the long-lasting impact they had on the world. They leave behind the beauty, goodness, and love that is carried forward by those of us who knew them. Live their legacy this holiday season. May your memories light to your sadness.
...Picture yourself in a tug-of-war with a powerful monster.You each are holding one end of a rope with a bottomless pit between you. You pull in one direction; the monster pulls back. If you lose, you’ll end up in the pit! But you do have one other option to avoid being pulled to your doom. You can drop the rope.
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